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Throw a Housewarming Party For Your Divorcing Friend
Starting over shouldn’t have to be a solitary struggle. Be there.
A divorce is its own kind of catastrophe. Like the death of a loved one, the end of a marriage can trigger a cascade of grief, feelings of guilt, helplessness, and despair. It can also blindside you financially.
The main difference between death and divorce, of course, is that you live on. No one has died. “Only” your marriage has.
And that means your grieving and recovery is expected to be straightforward. You don’t get a lot of time off work. You don’t get a lot of sympathy cards or baskets of flowers. And hardly anyone thinks to offer their condolences and ask if there’s anything they can do.
You don’t get a lot of sympathy cards or baskets of flowers. And hardly anyone thinks to offer their condolences and ask if there’s anything they can do.
In fact, it tends to be the opposite. I learned a lot about life and relationships the hard way from my divorce, so let me tell you what I saw:
Your friends scatter. The social group you shared with your spouse evaporates. Your family may shun you. They may express anger at the…
